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"Introducing
the Coaches!..."
Let me
introduce myself and my partner, Kristin Denton.
My name is Paul Sterling. After a long career as a commercial fisherman in Alaska, I spent twenty years studying and teaching communication skills in government, business and private practice. And of course, I tried to use my communication strategies in my personal relationships. But they didn’t always work. They were great for business relationships, but not so good fro personal relationships. Business communication has to do with negation, trading and compromise, as telling people what to do and how to do it. these things didn’t work well at home. In fact, I have one divorce and two broken engagements under my belt. So I knew I had more to learn.
I was so moved by this work that for the last 10 years I have studied this method of relationship communication. A few years ago, I blended NVC with systems theory, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and neuro-associative conditioning with Dr. Rosenberg’s work to create an incredibly effective way to compassionately connect with yourself and others. Now I teach this method with my life partner, Kristin Denton. She has been an instructor of language, literature and communication for the last 18 years -- in both workplace and public school settings. She specializes in working with at-risk youth – the teenagers who really don’t like to listen. She’s added her knowledge and skills about instruction and motivation to our work to make it even more powerful.
Originally, she says she tried to change her partners in all of her marriages. She married for romantic reasons, but then tried to ‘help’ these poor guys into being something they weren’t. But nobody likes to be changed. So she divorced. She changed partners. But that never really worked either, because she ended up in another marriage trying to change her partner. And again that didn’t work, and again she divorced. Three times. Finally, with the help of Nonviolent Communication, the Magic Relationship Method, and some love and support, she learned to change the way she relates to her partner. And she tells me she loves it (and so do I!). She says she has no plans of changing me (although she still tries every once in a while) or of changing partners (thank goodness).
Kristin and I teach this simple
yet powerful communication method to prison inmates,
at-risk students, university professors, therapists,
counselors |
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About 10 years ago
I found the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication
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