What My Clients Have to Say

S.J.,  Estes Park, Colorado

After just the initial two-hour session my husband and I were able to use those tools on our own upsets …

We were an hour and a half into our drive home when I realized we were talking about our toughest issues with calm compassion and understanding instead of upset and hurt. Thank you so much for such an amazing gift.

J & K, Kapaa, Kauai

“After our breakthrough session with Paul and Nathalie, we were excited and knew that this is whom we needed to work with in order to make immediate and deep lasting changes.

We felt we could tackle our issues, learn practical communication skills, and get mastery of them faster and more directly than we had in two years of traditional couples counseling.

We knew we would be expertly guided through our difficulties, and felt we would emerge stronger and more compassionately as a couple and as individuals.”

G.S. Denver, CO

“Thank you Paul because you made me look GOOD! I just spoke with a client who I referred to you. She is so happy with the work that you have done with her and her family that it makes my heart sing. I feel so blessed that she took me up on the suggestion to make an appointment with you and that she was willing to stick it out.

You have dramatically changed the course of their lives and, I get, the lives of generations to follow because of what they are now teaching their children. Thank you! You are awesome!””

D & M Kauai

“We attended one of Paul's communication workshops, then had a 45 minute private session with him. Working with Paul was wonderful. We were a bit nervous talking to someone about our personal life.

Paul put us at ease very quickly. His technique is relaxing and feels safe. We liked the session so much we decided to continue working with Paul. Natalie, Paul’s partner, is a wonderful addition, adding the feminine touch. My Wife really bonded with her. We would recommend Paul and Natalie to anyone.”

K. F. LA, Ca

"I really enjoyed my Relationship Breakthrough Session with Paul Sterling.  His no-nonsense style was refreshing, and his questions cut right to the heart of my issues.  

He even gave me a chance to practice a new compassionate communication strategy which I know is going to help me to break out of my old pattern of being triggered, and reacting with anger or defensiveness.  I can't wait to get started!"

R & S Phoenix AZ 

“We are so grateful to Paul for working his magic on us!  We have been married for 25 years and still could not figure out how to communicate effectively to each other without blowing things all out of proportion and feelings getting hurt. 

Paul gave us some simple tools to use the very first session and we noticed a difference right away.  Each week we learned more tools and Paul helped us to strengthen the ones he taught us in the beginning.  We really appreciate the convenience of using Skype for our sessions. 

Our relationship had never been better, our only regret is we did not find him 25 years ago.”

M. C. San Diego, CA

“I came to Paul as a last ditch effort to save my relationship.  I had tried everything I could think of to get my relationship "unstuck" over many years and nothing worked.

 With 20-years of marriage, my wife and I had advanced skills in making the other feel like the source of the problems and had acquired advanced attack/defense routines that would play-out over-and-over without resolution. 

Paul did a great job listening - really listening - and hearing me and my wife.  He helped us both to identify how we could set each other up to win (and not to lose, as we had been doing).  He elegantly and gently pointed our where our communication was breaking down and how that was leading to the perpetual loops we would find ourselves in.

Besides facilitating open, safe and flowing communication, he took on the role of teacher and showed us exactly how (through role play and exercises) we could avoid making one another feel ignored and rejected.  My wife and I saw immediate, impactful results after just a few sessions with Paul.

I truly appreciate Paul's ability to get right to the heart of the issues that my wife and I had been experiencing for many years.  Having tried marriage counseling (unsuccessfully) earlier in our relationship, we were both a bit skeptical about trying a coach.  We figured if a psychologist couldn't help, then how could a relationship coach be of benefit.

All I can say is, that I'm glad we took the chance with Paul - it's making a huge difference for us.  As a couple, we interact differently and have largely ridded ourselves of the detrimental communication patterns we had fallen into and couldn't get out of by ourselves.  We are happier and more open with one another now and enjoy the new space that has opened up for us.

Our thanks go to Paul as well as our recommendation.  He's exceptionally good at what he does.