"In just one session, Paul and Kristin helped me see what was missing in my conversations with my daughter…"

" When she would come to me in upset for support, it usually ended in more upset.  It felt like she was trying to convince me how terrible life is and I was constantly trying to help, but to no avail.  We would end up on a collision course that left us both feeling pretty rotten. 

Personally, I was not only frustrated, but very sad.   Even though I was committed to having powerful conversations with her, I couldn't figure out how to make that happen.  I am amazed that  in just one telephone session with Paul and Kristin I got some very "doable" techniques that instantly improved our conversations and, more importantly, our relationship.  

And I'm not kidding about the instant part.   I literally took what I learned in that phone call and used it right away to great success.  Through Paul's coaching and role playing, I got the huge "ah ha"  AND a stronger, more enjoyable relationship with my daughter.  What could be better than that?  Paul and Kristin, thank you for sharing your gifts. 

C.V.F., Vermont

"Radically Impacted My Relationships..."

"I recognize how I am constantly building cases against people. Just that alone has radically impacted my relationships."

Daniela Hess Scholl
Ithaca, New York

 

Click to listen to Daniela's testimonial 

"The impact was so immediate that last night after the call..."

I think the LOP is a great way to not only communicate what your needs are
but to also come to an understanding of others and their needs as well.

The impact was so immediate that last night after the call this is what
happened:

My mother had called and left a message so I decided to call her back.  My
four year old son really likes to talk to my mom especially once he learned
that he could call her Grandma Cookie.  (This is her family nickname).  So
we called her up and when I got a chance to talk after my son she started
expressing all kinds of hurt feelings about my older children not calling
her.  Instead of debating or arguing how little she calls them etc, I
realized that her feeling were hurt and said ," so what you're saying is
that your feelings are hurt because Tom and Jess don't call? She replied,
yes, I feel like they don't care about me etc. etc.

Rather than get defensive I said that I would let them know that you need to
know that they still care about you.  She said that I should since I was
their dad.  I said I would be willing to do that.

and that was it. We then moved on to other conversation.

In the past, I would have said things like," well you hardly call them either!"  They're really busy and by the way, you decided to move away from them and now your complaining that you don't get to see them.  Wow!  I can view this from a birds eye view now. this is great.  I definately appreciate the info and look forward to learning more.  I vote for peace!

Ed L. - In love and gratitude