Communication Problems Wrecking Your
Relationship?
"Discover a Simple, Secret System to
Quickly Bring Back The Trust, Honesty,
Love
and Understanding To Your Relationship."
The Turning Point is for Couples That
Still Care About
Each Other and That Really Want to Bring
Back What
They Once Had... But Are Having
Relationship Troubles
That Are Threatening To Destroy It All…
From the Desk of:
Paul Sterling
Estes Park, Colorado, USA
Before I tell you about the Magic
Relationship Method...
Let me
tell you a short story...
Last
December, a young and
beautiful couple came to one
of my relationship
workshops. They loved each
other very much…
But here’s where the
story gets weird.
You see, even though the
loved each other, their
situation is hopeless. This
couple had tried everything
and the situation just got
worse. No matter how hard
they tried, their
relationship problems just
got recycled rather than
resolved.
Sound
familiar?
They had done their best,
but nothing changed. They
had hit a wall - run up
against a Relationship
Roadblock... And… there
was nothing they could do
about it. They felt
helpless, hopeless, hurt,
frustrated and disappointed.
It wasn’t fair, they
had tried so hard and loved
each other so much and
still, it looked like it was
going to end in a painful
divorce.
Their conversations often
ended up with
misunderstandings...
misunderstandings that led
to arguments… arguments that
eventually
ended up with the silent
treatment.
And both of them ended up
walking around on egg shells
– avoiding each other and
avoiding the issues…
Henry and Velina showed up
at the workshop feeling
pretty overwhelmed and
hopeless. They even
announced on the first day
of the workshop that they
were going to break up.
The only reason they were
there was to be learn how to
communicate better through
the separation.
Over the course of the
weekend, Henry and Velina
learned new communication
tools and worked hard
improve their skills.
They practiced like crazy.
There were tears and upsets
and heart-to-heart talks and
breakthroughs. And by the
end of the weekend they were
communicating much more
openly and honestly about
their individual feelings
and needs.
They
went home and I didn’t hear
from them for a while. And
then one day I got this
email from Velina:
TO: info@magicrelationship.com
Subject: Good
news
Date: January
I just wanted to
pass on to you
the good
news. Henry and
I have renewed
our vows to
each other and
reunited in
marriage. We are
using the MRM
tools [the Magic
Relationship
Method]
successfully and
doing better
than
EVER!
Thank you guys
so much for your
support.
I got the
business cards
too and will be
sure to pass
them on.
We love you!
Velina
You see... all relationships will
eventually hit a wall... a
relationship roadblock where the
problems, misunderstandings and issues
are bigger than ability to overcome
them. When you hit that
relationship wall - things look
hopeless. And then, the harder you try
to fix things, the worse they get.
Sometimes it only takes a couple of
dates and sometimes it takes getting
married before you'll hit the wall.
But
eventually… it happens to every
couple... a few lucky people stumble
upon the secrets you are about to
discover and make it through... but many
don't.
I am
guessing that if you are reading this
web-site, it's very likely you that
you've hit that wall. You're at
the point where part you... really
wants to save the relationship and
another part of you is ready to say,
"Screw it - it's not supposed to be this
hard!"
Okay,
let me get this out of the way early on:
to make what I'm about to say
worth-while, you are going to have to
ask yourself this simple, but tough
question...
"Is Your Relationship Really Worth
Saving?
Is it
worth investing your time, emotions,
energy, and yes even some money? I was
once told that if you want to know
what’s important to someone – check
their calendar and their credit card
statements… where and with whom, do they
invest their time and their money.
Since
you are still reading… I’m going to
assume you said yes my relationship
is worth saving and now it’s just a
matter of what to do and how to do
it.
So let
dive in - what really causes all these
relationship problems anyway?
Well…
it's really a combination of current and
past unresolved issues from
previous relationships
and even from childhood creeping up and
threatening to end your relationship.
These
issues may show up as...
Broken agreements, betrayals and
other forms of lost trust
The silent treatment or and angry
and defensive communication
Conflicts, upsets and arguments that
don’t get resolved
Upset from dealing with exes, steps
and in-laws
Overwhelming jealousy
No
more passion or sex life
Lots of guilt, blame, shame and
manipulation in the relationship
Persistent, painful
misunderstandings
Talking about important issues
always ends with someone taking it
personally or making it personal
The inability to ask for what you
want
Neither partner really know how… or
wanting to listen to... and
understand their partner
So
part of the solution is to identify what
your deep, underlying triggers really
are and stop blaming your partner (and
them stop blaming you). The
Turning Point can help you there.
Humans, no matter how wonderful their
childhoods, will get scared when their
needs aren't met by their lover.
They
develop strategies to try to get those
needs met...
The More Important Your Need – The
More Desperate The Strategy Can Become…
Some
that may be less than glamorous (like
yelling, pouting, arguing, silent
treatment, fighting, withdrawing,
hitting).
Ahhhh,
even if these do work – both people pay
a huge price… resistance, resentment,
hurt feelings, lost intimacy, lost trust
and more…
There
has to be a better way!
That’s
where The Turn Point – A Relationship
Rebuilding Retreat, comes in.
I coach people in compassionate
communication skills for couples.
It's
like having a relationship communication
tool box for
creating intimacy
resolving conflicts
clearing up misunderstanding
talking about tough issues without
taking it or making it personal
ending arguments in minutes
and more - very cool tool box to
have - what would you do with it?
You'll
know how to relate to your beloved in a
way that will make sure that your needs are met
AND that you remain close to your beloved.
Phase 1) Stop... In The Name of Love...
First you will discover "The 5
Relationship Wrecking Communication
Mistakes." Once you can identify
these you’ll be able to stop making
these painful mistakes in your
communication with your beloved.
It’s step one in renewing your
relationship and making sure that things
don’t become worse. It's also the
first step toward changing the way you
relate.
Remember, you can’t change your
partner (you may have already tried
– and you’ll probably agree that it just
can't be done. People are
resistant to change when it’s initiated
by somebody other than themselves –
think about the last time you told
somebody they ought to go on a diet or
quit smoking.)
And really, you don’t need to change
yourself. Deep down at the bottom
of your upset is a desire to get your
basic human needs met. You need
love, appreciation, support and intimacy
with another human being. You’re
just wanting to get these needs met.
So you don’t want to change that about
yourself (if it were even humanly
possible).
But what you CAN do is change the way you relate to your partner so
that they will be willing to help you get these needs met.
Phase 2) Rebuild Your Relationship
Bridges...
The second set of skills you will master
through the Magic Relationship Method
is The 4 Steps To Instant intimacy -
Communication Formula. This is
a simple, effective four-step formula
for creating intimacy, understanding and
support (not just monitoring your
communication as with the 5 Mistakes).
It’s a little more difficult to learn
because it requires communicating in a
new way – different from what you’re
accustomed to doing. But remember,
what you’re doing right now might be
driving a wedge between you and your
beloved.
This
4 Step Communication Formula will bring
you closer together.
Using this, you’ll be able to connect
lovingly with your partner even in the
face of old wounds and baggage that
usually drive you further apart.
This will
take some time to become a ‘natural’ at
using this technique. But if it
would give you back the love,
understanding and passion
you used to have in your relationship,
you'd be crazy not to give it a try.
Think of it this way: where have
you been focusing most of your attention
lately? On your work? On
your friends? On your
entertainment (like sports and
television)?
What if you put
the time, money and energy that
you’ve been devoting to these other
pursuits into re-making your
relationship into the relationship of
your dreams?
It’s plain to see that just this shift
in your attention, just signing up for
our Romantic Weekend and Seminar in Gold
Hills will begin a huge shift in the
tone
of your relationship.
Magic Relationship
Method Presents...
"The
Turning Point:
A
Relationship Rebuilding
Retreat"
at the Gold Hills Spa in
Ward, Colorado
July
17, 18 and 19, 2009
Creating a Conscious,
Compassionate
Relationship
Filled With Love,
Intimacy and
Understanding
YES! Paul, I want to
create the
relationship of my
dreams.
Or you can call our office to register
or get any
of your questions answered, at (970) 586-7734.
Phase 3) Creating a New Future...
Full of Hope and Possiblity
The last part of the Magic Relationship
Method that Paul will teach you is the
7 Relationship Rebuilding Rules
to take you from a miserable to a
magical relationship. They’re 7
rules that will ‘bring home’ your
understanding of the 5 Mistakes and the
4 Steps and make your relationship
just that much more wonderful.
Here's How We'll Create the Magic...
The First Day: An Introduction to The
Communication Principles
Acquire the simple, powerful and
effective 4 Step Formula.
Learn how to avoid the 5
Relationship-Wrecking Communication
Mistakes.
Learn how to apply the 4 Step
Formula at those times that you used
to make the 5 Mistakes.
Practice recognizing and applying
these techniques through
explanation, demonstration, guided
practice and individual practice.
Learn to ask for what you want in a
way that others will want to give it
to you.
Talk about what's upsetting you in a
way that actually creates more
understanding and healing.
The Second Day: Putting the Principles
to Work...
Discover
the distinctions between
observations and evaluations,
feelings and thoughts, needs and
strategies, requests and demands.
Learn to use the distinctions above
to create connection and
understanding between you and your
loved ones.
Play games designed to help you
embed the 4 step method into your
day to day operating system (don't
worry -- it's not painful).
Practice saying "NO” in role plays
so that you can do it at home
without hurting the people you love.
And much, much, more…
Have a
real, alive, open and honest relationship rather than a NICE (Not
Interested in Connecting Emotionally) dead one.
Sign Up Before June 18th and Receive the
Following Bonus...
Bonus:
4 Power Packed Coaching Calls following
the seminar to help you integrate your
new knowledge into your everyday life.
Normally $97.00, but if you register
before June 18th we will pay for your
participation.
Magic Relationship
Method Presents...
"The
Turning Point:
A
Relationship Rebuilding
Retreat"
at the Gold Hills Spa 35
miles from Boulder,
Colorado
July
17, 18 and 19, 2009
Creating a Conscious,
Compassionate
Relationship
Filled With Love,
Intimacy and
Understanding
YES! Paul, I want to
create the
relationship of my
dreams.
Or you can call our office to register
or get any
of your questions answered, at (970) 586-7734.
The Seminar Leader
The workshop will be led by Paul
Sterling, communication coach, providing
Compassionate Coaching with the intent
of creating harmony in relationships
through the method of Nonviolent
Communication (created by Dr. Marshall
Rosenberg, www.cnvc.org).
Paul Sterling, has spent the
past twenty years studying and
teaching communication skills in
government and business. He is
certified in Ericksonian
hypnosis, neuro-linguistic
programming, and
neuro-associative conditioning.
He has trained with Bob Proctor
(from The Secret),
Tony Robbins, Richard Bandler,
Robert Kiyosaki, Marshall
Thurber and many more thought
leaders in the area of personal
growth.
Paul has taught this life-changing,
simple, 4-step method to a wide variety
of people ranging from maximum security
prisoners to priests. They've enjoyed
teaching it to at-risk high-school
students, the staff of Goodwill Denver,
teachers, professors, Buddhist
practitioners and innumerable
individuals and couples.
The Seminar Costs
July 17, 18 and 19 2009 Per person
$695.00 Per couple $995.00
The accommodations make this retreat
also a very special vacation
On behalf of Gold Lake, we are thrilled
to have you experience our wellness
retreat center. We are 100 acres of
magical healing land in the embrace of
the Colorado Rockies.
While staying here you can soak in our
lakeside hot-pools, canoe, kayak, use
our mountain bike and hiking trails,
experience horseback riding or
fly-fishing and treat yourself to one of
our amazing spa treatments.
Our food is local, seasonal and organic.
Breakfast and Lunch are a beautiful
creative buffet spread, dinner is an
elegant 3 course menu.
Our lodging is rustic mountain cabins.
We offer shared lodging of queen, full
and futon beds. Please see the list of
cabins and contact Paul about where you
would like to stay and if you prefer a
particular cabinmate.
Meals and Lodging are included in the
registration price.
Get ready to relax, explore and
rejuvenate.
Let me know what else you need...
To register now, click on the button
above or please call or email my office
at
Info@MagicRelationship.com
(970) 586-7734
Notes From My Past Participants...
"
Truly
transformational -- I came here in turmoil, disconnected and feeling hopeless. But through this workshop, I
now feel more connected and appreciative to my beloved than ever. My
inner peace and capacity for love are stronger than I imagined they ever
could be. I am grateful.”
Jerome, Golden, CO
“I felt so lost and full of despair about my new relationship.
I didn’t feel like any of my words were getting through. I
couldn’t convey myself in a healthy manner; this class showed
me I had options to turn despair into hope.
I now feel like I have the
security in my thoughts to convey
myself for a brighter future with my mate.”
LaDonna Taylor,
Denver, Colorado
"I think I will be better equipped to take time to
listen to others' feelings as well as being able to relate to my
feelings without
always being defensive, and hearing the negative. When they are
probably just showing me an act of love or asking me for help."
Melissa Snow, Golden, CO
"I
wanted to write to express my excitement with the communication approach
I learned via your seminar. Before participating in your workshop, I was
clear on what I wanted
from my relationship, but lost on how to go about getting it.
Your seminar clarified for me not only how to clearly identify what
I am seeking but how to connect it to my feelings and needs as
well as to see how they influence the feelings and needs of those
important persons in my life. The important component that I was missing
and that I learned via the workshop was asking for
what I needed. Now, I'm able to close the communication loop.
Thanks for the insights.
Regino - LA, California
Also, give us a call if you have any
questions at all. You can reach us at
(970) 586-7734 or send an email to
Info@MagicRelationship.com
Yours for Relationship Success!
Paul Sterling
MagicRelationship.com
970-586-7734
P.S. "Insanity is communicating the same
way over and over again, expecting a
different result." Arguments, intimacy
problems, family feuds as well as
problems on the job are most often
communication problems, either with
others or ourselves. But you can learn a
new way to communicate that will bring
you closer to others rather than driving
you apart. Discover the Magic
Relationship Method and have be The
Turning Point in your relationship. Grab
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